Today Daesha told me she wanted to do something fun. I said ok do you want to go to the pool? No I want to go to the mall. I thought she really doesn't want to do that. Four year olds dont go to the mall for fun. I swear it sounds like we live at the mall. We really dont! Just lately the mall comes up alot. Anyway, I called my sister. She said she was going to the mall with her girls, Ok I guess today is a mall day. So we all went to the mall. We let the kids ride the carousel. Daesha loves to ride the dragon. I got a cute picture of her flying on her dragon. This next bit has to come with a little history so bear with me. Daesha has been asking about peircing her ears for a couple months. Ted and I have just tried to dodge the whole thing. When we adopted her her birthmom wanted to know how soon we'd be piercing her ears. Ted and I (especially Ted)was sure that wont be happening any time soon. Since then we have learned more about "african americans." We have noticed this must be a cultural thing. We have been asked by other blacks why her ears aren't pierced. Our reply was simply that we were giving that decision to her when she was old enough to want her ears pierced. She was asking but I couldn't bring myself to it. I had no real reason why other than I didn't want my little girl to grow up so fast. A few weeks ago when Daesha had asked again I told her horror stories. It was all I could think of!!! I told her it hurt really bad. Worse than a shot. She seemed to not like that very much so I knew it wouldn't come up again for many years. Today it did. A nice girl at the jewelery store loved Daesha and Keegan and wanted to give them a sucker. She went over to the area were they sit you in the high chair to pierce your ears. Daesha wanted to sit in the chair. I told her what it was for. In thought she would jump right down, remembering what I had told her. My plan backfired! She wanted her ears pierced right then. I reminded her that it really hurts and she insisted. Daesha worked the crowd and asked the girl if she would pierce her ears. Soon everyone was in on the great plan. She was so excited about the whole idea and then the sample earrings came out and that was the deal breaker. Daesha was really funny and totally excited. Here is the picture of her before. And here she is after. She cried for about 30 seconds and then she was ok. The cutest was Daesha's cousin Tiffany. My sister has a rule in her house. You must be eight to pierce your ears. Tiffany's birthday is in two months. She kept asking her mom if she could do it too. My sister has 6 kids she has more experience saying no than I do. But as Tiffany sat and watched and Daesha started to cry she burst out in tears too! I wish I had that on video. As soon as we got home Daesha was running to her friends house to show them what she did today. She said she will never pierce her ears again. I said that is good you will never get another piercing again. (anywhere) This video is so sad it just makes me want to hug her. But I thought I really wanted this on film. Her hair was really ugly today too. Wasn't expecting it to be such a big day.